6 mistakes we make after a breakup.
Relationships that don’t work are painful. The more time you spent together, the more plans you made, the more hopes you had, the more you shared your ideals. But suddenly, with all your efforts to save the relationship, everything broke down. Whether the decision was made by you or your partner, we must understand that we cannot hold anyone by force, just as a toxic relationship is not good for anyone.
You went out with your friends, you confessed to your family and loved ones, you drank too much, you even gave him reconciliation text messages, but nothing worked. And then comes a lot of questions: how do I get over the breakup? Where am I wrong? How do I make him / her forget it faster?
We don’t necessarily want to tell you how to make it easier for you to get over it, because in your subconscious you know better that time heals everything, but rather what you do wrong by not allowing time to act to heal wounds.
Here are the 6 most common mistakes:
1. Do not accept the current reality
Pretend that everything is fine and show only a superficial image of the fact that you passed over. Accepting reality and crying over a stage in your life that you now regret does not necessarily mean anchoring in the past, but rather the chance to further explore your feelings and priorities.
2. Contact him / her
You check his or her Facebook or Instagram page frequently, ask his / her friends about his / her life, call him / her, give him / her messages in which he / she misses you … All these are mistakes that will make you even more long in the past and that will prolong your agony. Rather than contact him / her, it’s better to go out for a coffee with a friend or call a loved one.
3. Drink too much alcohol
Although at the moment it may seem like a state of euphoria, which will give you the impression that life is pink and you forgot about the past, the return to reality is even more painful. Why? Because the main post-alcohol effect in this situation is fixed depression.
4. You’re making fun of your body
An effect similar to that of alcohol is caused by sugar. But in the case of excessive consumption of sweets, you will choose with extra pounds. You now have more time to take care of your body, keep a healthy diet, the effect of which will be seen on the brain, which will focus more on your well-being.
5. Keep clinging to him / her
How do you do that? You talk all the time about him / her, you look crying at pictures or videos with you two, you find all sorts of excuses to look for him / her. It is clear that you want him back and that you are not ready to move on.
6. Desperately look for another partner
Every stage of our lives has its role. Don’t throw yourself into another relationship right away, because it’s too early. In the first stage, you will look for the current one to look like the former one, or you will find in it all the defects / qualities of the ex. Allow time to heal the wounds of the past!
Remember! A breakup actually means a new beginning! How fast this stage will occur depends only on you, on how much you want it, on how motivated you are to move on, but especially on how you choose to do it!
